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Katie:

Being able to go on a date and do everything that someone shouldn’t do sounds like a lot of fun. A girl doesn’t have to take the time to find just the right outfit and the shoes to match, or make sure her hair is perfect. However, getting to do all the wrong things may not be the right thing.

After going around to different girls and asking them what I should and shouldn’t do I went and did them all. Some things to do were: dress nicely, use your manners, stay off your phone and be on time. A few don’ts: don’t look sloppy, don’t be on your phone, don’t talk about exes and don’t act uninterested.

I thought that this was going to be the best date ever because I didn’t have to care or try, which meant that this was going to be the easiest date ever, right?

It was a lot harder than one would think, trying to make things awkward the more we tried, the worse it got. Andrew and I got to the point of almost not knowing what to say or do.

I showed up in my work outfit, and he showed up dressed nicely. He made me drive and then proceeded to tell me that he called the wrong place to make sure we could set up there, already starting off on the wrong foot. Asking how each other’s day was on the way there was a typical conversation that two people would have on the way to a date. We were already yelling at each other and wanting to turn around.

I pulled into the parking spot, since I had to drive, and he didn’t even wait for me. He just went straight to the door. He proceeded to open the door, still not waiting for me, goes inside and lets the door shut. We went to Fuzzy’s Taco Shop where people have gone up to the register to order and pay. He went ahead and ordered his food and proceeded to pay for his food and his food only. I ordered and paid for myself.

The bartender set our drinks on the bar and all of a sudden I hear, “Hey, grab mine would ya?”

As Andrew is carrying his food and his food only, I grab both of our drinks and we head outside. As we sit down, I already got about 10 mosquito bites. My buzzer for my food went off, and I tried to hint at him to see if he would go get it, but he had no idea what was going on.

After I went in and got my food, I sat down and the date and awkward conversation began. It was pretty normal conversation until he asked me if I was talking to anyone else, which boys should NEVER ask on the first date. After that, I was wondering what else was going to come out of the guy’s mouth. We eventually ate our food and it was time to leave.

As we left, I remembered that I needed to get gas. As we got to the gas station, Andrew very kindly offered to fill up my car, with my debit card. As he is pumping my gas, I noticed that he was also checking out another girl who was filling up her car. I was watching the meter as it ever so slowly filled up my tank. When it was done, he got in my car and told me, “You’re welcome.”

Once we finally got back to Grand View, we both got out of my car and started walking to the building. We said our goodbye’s and as he went in for a hug, I headed for my room.

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Andrew:

When Katie actually accepted my offer to go on a date together, I didn’t know where to start or what to think about. What we would do, where we would go, what I would say, I had no idea. So like any college guy, I turned to friends and other guys for their experience and knowledge on girls. They all had the same things to say, “Make sure you compliment her a lot, talk about the future, listen to her, maintain eye contact, etc.” all the obvious things a guy should do. The don’ts were pretty obvious as well. Don’t talk about ex’s, don’t say you want kids, don’t forget your wallet, and don’t get drunk on the first date. Everything seemed so obvious and boring. I’m one that likes to stand out and do my own things how I want to do them. So I decided to say thanks to all the guys, but no thanks.

I consider myself to be someone who is very outgoing and social. I can talk to anyone about anything at any time. However, put me on the spot on a date, that’s a bit of a different story. I’m not sure why it was so hard to do the do’s and don’ts of a first date when I had all of my favorite things right there included in it: Fuzzy’s Tacos, outdoor patio seats on a late summer night, a blonde girl, and a cold Bud Light.

It turns out, shockingly, that girls on a first date in college don’t enjoy being asked what their future plans are down the road after college. They also really don’t like to be asked if they are talking to any other guys while you slide your phone that is being blown up by other girls back into your pocket.

Katie, my date, does like to talk about life though, that was pretty obvious even for me not knowing much about her. Family, home and friends. Just because we got on the topic of friends though didn’t make it okay for me to bring up that I would be hanging out with mine for a few more beers as soon as she finished her meal. Then again, she did pay for it, so I let her take her time consuming her quesadilla and selection of drink that wasn’t Bud Light.

From the moment Katie picked me up in her car on our first date which I was running late for, I noticed tension and awkwardness. I don’t think it was because of me having her drive, pay for her food and drink, open her own restaurant door after walking in behind me, or pulling out her own chair to sit down was why it felt awkward. What really brought out her inner small but fiery white girl attitude was that she had been waiting all night for 7:30 to roll around so she could finally eat after a long day of school and work. I didn’t think me grabbing a pre-date meal with the guys would be that big of a deal until she was ready to go, but apparently it was when it came time to order and I told her I really wasn’t all that hungry. The reason the tension was so high from the start is because when I asked where she was heading to, she gave me a very disappointed look, followed by, “You forgot to call and set up a reservation, didn’t you.”

Why that is my job still confuses me.

All in all, I thought everything went great! I really look forward to our second date. As well as a text response from Katie…